Only thing more frustrating that blatantly anti-Black misogynist Black men are those who ‘love us’ so much they ignore our lived experience. ‘I love Black women with all my heart and so do my friends, so you must be exaggerating, immersed in the brainwashed exception.’ Fuck that dude. Your love is worthless if you can’t respect Black women enough to care that so many are regularly attacked/bullied/trolled by YOUR PEERS. ‘I love y’all! I don’t know what you’re talking about.’ Perhaps you don’t because you’re too busy singing your own praises to find out. ‘My mom/daughter/partner are everything. God is a Black woman.’ Then concern yourself with men who delight in degrading us. Don’t fact check me.
It must be nice to exist in an alternate universe devoid of anti-Black misogyny. But most women with Black features are here in the real world. I don’t need to be your Queen or Sistah. I don’t care if you worship a God with nappy hair and nose wide like mine if my lived experience < your opinion.
It’s not enjoyable to recount/recall the fact that men, who have little girls that look like me, think I’m dirt on the bottom of their shoe. The last thing I want or need to do with my free time is fabricate verbal abuse from Black men AND all other groups. It happens. End of story.”
She spoke a WORD here. A WORD! I seriously stand in a tug of war position between these two types of Black men. One directly attacks me and harms me in almost unspeakable ways. The other runs in but not to defend me, call the former one out or even to talk about how Black men’s misogynoir oppresses Black women. Nope. He arrives right on time to say "not ‘all’ Black men harm" even as one is actively harming me. He also arrives to gaslight me, claim I don’t support Black men and claim he loves Black women despite our “betrayal.” Basically, my lived experiences are ignored.
So yes, she spoke a word!